Why do women stop responding suddenly?

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Hope your week has gone well. In real life, social conventions force you to acknowledge and talk to people around you as a formality. Ten years later, I now know that worrying about it was a waste of time.

It feels unpleasant, but so it goes. In other words, they know not what they do. So I took it as a sgin that she is not interested and deleted her number. Will you forgive me?

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I am a guy in his 30s in NY. I often email women on OKCupid and start a conversation that seems like it's going well -- we are sending interesting, funny and flirtatious emails back and forth, we have definite things and common and stuff to talk about, they may have added me to their favorites -- and then they disappear and stop responding. I'd say this happens around half the time, sometimes at the point when I suggest meeting in real life for drinks or coffee usually after 3 or 4 emails , other times nothing in particular precipitates it. There's nothing unusual or awkward about the emails, and its not a situation where I reveal my name and anything bad would show up if they Google it. What's going on when someone does this? Is there another strategy here I'm missing to convert meeting someone online to meeting someone in person? Do they just want online pen pals or something? Am I wrong in asking to meet up too quickly? Sometimes I flake out because I am too busy to respond -- and it's annoying to do it all in OKC anyhow -- and by the time I am a little freer, I feel like it's been too long. This is probably idiotic, but there you have it. It happens to me, too, of course, that people just disappear. It feels unpleasant, but so it goes. You can stop responding at virtually any time. Because these conversations aren't REAL conversations though they may feel that way to you. They just a sort of bee-dance to inspire the other person to imagine what you might be like in real life. They'll either become curious enough to find out, or they won't. Sometimes it's because they decide they really aren't attracted to you. Other times, someone else swoops in and does a more elaborate bee dance, and so their attention is distracted away from you. Don't take it personally -- I mean, it is personal, but that's how attraction works. When we first encounter someone's picture and description online, we project a lot onto them and fill in the blanks with fantasy. As we get to know them a little better, we may begin to suspect that they're not who we're looking for at all. Mostly the first one though. It happens to women, too, although maybe not as much. I think in addition to what jeather said some women go onto dating sites for a boost of self-esteem... When you want to meet, they drop it because they just wanted to online visceral thrill, or they were just testing the waters, or they just aren't emotionally ready to follow through. I don't think there's much you can do to screen them out. I would definitely recommend that you that pursue the IRL meeting at 3 or 4 emails, so you can cut your time involvement to a minimum for those who end up flaking out. The relative anonymity of online dating makes this sort of cord-cutting very easy. Don't take it personally. They either started dating someone else, or they liked you enough to keep emailing with you, but not quite enough to commit to meeting you in person. Hell, I've had women flake out on me after they were the ones who suggested meeting. But you're not doing anything wrong; this is just how online dating works. Maybe they are just flaky, maybe they are currently sort-of dating someone else they met online, maybe they are just busy, etc. Is there another strategy here I'm missing to convert meeting someone online to meeting someone in person? No, most people who actually want to go out on dates don't need to keep it online for so long. Do they just want online pen pals or something? Unless you also want a pen pal then it doesn't really matter. Am I wrong in asking to meet up too quickly? No, that's the best way to do online dating in my opinion, the first real life meetup is very important for figuring out if you are actually compatible so it needs to be not long after the initial contact in my opinion. Also, you should meet in person sooner, not later. That girl will always have a potential date lined up if she wants. If you're getting multiple replies that don't materialize into dates, chances are you are a backburner option for that girl and she has more interesting people in the queue at the moment. Also, some people really do just like to flirt for the ego boost. A minority of the women you're exchanging messages with may never intend to meet anybody for an actual date. People would do this all the time in real life if they could. In real life, social conventions force you to acknowledge and talk to people around you as a formality. Now you don't exist to them. No remorse because no visible consequences and thus no guilt or repercussions. No, this is not true. It's only natural that women and men with higher overall star ratings get more messages, since both of those facts are caused by more people being interested in them. Are you in New York City or just New York State? Oh yeah, you're anonymous, so you can't answer that, but it's important. If you're in NYC, the simple explanation is that any reasonably attractive woman around your age is likely to be receiving so much interest at any given time that she just won't be able to continue every conversation. Focus on the half of women who are continuing the communication; don't dwell on the others! Usually it was when a message dialogue went on too long without any meetup, either because the guy didn't ask or I didn't see a natural opening to. And in the last instance it was just before I was hiding my account when things went from casual to exclusive with my current boyfriend. I'm pretty sure it's not personal. My only advice is that if you want to meet someone, ask them out on a date within around 3 messages. Nothing you say indicates you're doing anything wrong. Yes to a couple of them finding someone else - not half. Also - and this is why I used to just disappear - you probably have said something that didn't sit right with the other person. You not noticing it does not mean it didn't happen. I can give you 10 examples off the top of my head - each time the guy had no idea he'd done it. Got repeated emails calling me a bitch, etc. Again, I can give horrifying examples of how not well guys took that email. Your best bet is to stop having email conversations and meet sooner. By four emails, I'm over it unless there's a reason we can't meet. Reduces the chance of saying something innocuous that turns someone off or pushes a tentative yes to an enough-already no... I'd actually be really interested to read the emails to see iwhere it went wrong. I think there are four very specific things guys do wrong dating online - and that's after the four critical profile mistakes. I can't speak to women's errors, I haven't dated them. Happens a lot on okcupid because of the public answers to questions. Amazing how many guys believe in creationism and are against gay marriage or in some other ways their values conflict with mine. Another thing that happens is I reread something and realize it's fairly subtle code for something I'm not interested in. When there are tons of references to not wanting something serious right away or getting out of a relationship or just wanting to have fun, etc that combined with other things can lead me to believe the guy is actually looking more for casual sex than a relationship. This has unfortunately happened to me at least 50% of the time so I'm pretty wary of it at this point. I actually think asking someone out after 3 or 4 emails is ideal. I'll often drop off communication after a certain point if I feel like the guy is never going to ask me out. The blog did not say if it was Quickmatch only, where profile content would be a confound. They made it sound like they considered photos only, in isolation of everything else, but they really didn't write anything about their methods so I can only give them the benefit of the doubt that they controlled for profile content somehow. And the basic idea is still probably valid; the most attractive women get bombarded with messages and it probably does have everything to do with how hot they look in their photo. Do you think they're all getting 10+ messages a day because they talk about their love of Proust? I actually got positive responses from women because I was polite enough to send emails saying I wasn't interested or that I'd just met someone I really liked and I don't play the multiple dating game. Basic reply I got was thanks for being so upfront and honest because most guys just quit communicating. So I'd say this is pretty normal behavior on OKC and most other online dating sites. To answer the post, I think being on the fence has been my biggest reason to disappear the few times I've done it. I think the woman contacted me first in most of those cases, and while I felt flattered enough to respond initially, for a few different reasons I didn't become interested enough to continue. A couple of people wrote me very long messages that felt like a chore to read and then answer; a couple more were far enough away that a real-life visit seemed unrealistic; and in a couple of cases I'd already suggested meeting for coffee, which was accepted but sort of unenthusiastically, so I didn't bother writing back to confirm a date and time. The emails have gone on for a while and there's been no concrete suggestion of meeting. I'm not on OKCupid for penpals, sorry. I'll do the legwork if I'm really crazy about the person. But if I'm on the fence, and they never say anything, I usually just drift off. Unfortunately, I am wired for monogamy. Even if the other thing isn't technically exclusive, honestly I just don't have the energy to continue pursuing other people if I already have someone in my life who I'm having fun with. The reason I drift away rather than talking it out is that I think it's important to remember that exchanging a message or two is not a commitment. If I start treating all online conversations as A Big Deal That Comes With Strings And Obligations, I start to get pretty messed up about other aspects of dating. And it's more important for me to protect what remains of my fragile sanity than for me to protect the feelings of someone I've never met. But the bottom line is to not take it personally, because people flake out. But this sort of thing bothers me too. I understand ignoring messages from people you've never communicated with, but I also find this sudden drop off from people with whom there was actual back and forth correspondence to be rude and immature. Better to let someone down than to flake out and leave them wondering. It's laziness on their end, in my opinion. Do you think that's rude? How are two strangers exchanging informal messages or emails meant to wind down the conversation? How would the ideal person on OK Cupid handle this? The bottom line, for me, has been mentioned here already - what am I supposed to do, send a bulleted list of reasons you don't turn my crank? I met my wife online. Love her to death and we are pretty dam perfect together. That being said, I did online dating for years. And I ran into the same problem you have. I think your best bet here is to start asking out people sooner then later. Perhaps you're dragging things along a bit. By the 3rd or 4th email it's definitely time to set up a meet up. Nothing really gets accomplished until you meet in person. So focus hard on being quicker not too quick about setting up a date. If you keep the date casual... And remember, as other people are saying, it's a numbers game. Just keep emailing people. Eventually you'll start meeting people in person. Sometimes you'll click, sometimes you won't. Most of my dates never led to 2nd dates. And the ones that did rarely led to 3rd dates. But a couple did... So stay positive and be diligent. You're probably not doing anything wrong, and apart from trying to suggest meeting earlier maybe 2 emails instead of 4? Just keep going, give yourself a break once in a while, and don't get discouraged! I met my boyfriend on plentyoffish. We had exchanged a few messages, but then my life got really super busy and I wasn't on the site for a couple months. I saw he had sent a message during that time but didn't have a chance to read it. When things calmed down, I sent him a message explaining what was going on I had just gotten a new job and was also on my Jaycee chapter board - those two things ate up lots of my time and that I still wanted to talk to him if he was willing. He is a very sweet guy and I didn't want him thinking he had offended me or that I was blowing him off He was still willing to talk to me, we met shortly thereafter, and we've been together ever since. So you just wait and wait. Conversations come to a natural end and there are ways to wind them down gently and with respect. Better than just disappearing, especially when things seemed to have ben going well or after what seemed like a great interview.

Surely if someone was interested they would just send a message. YOU send a message. So I homo it depends what you were him on. Now, you often simply give a guy that you met at work, school, a bar or club, the bookstore, among friends, and so forth your phone number and wait for him to get in touch. Now she stopped replying to my texts abruptly. I would just keep it casual - if there are sparks you'll know and if not, you can escape fast. That feeling of excitement from meeting someone new quickly turns into disappointment when your text chat goes cold. The blog did not say if it was Quickmatch only, where profile content would be a confound. As a comment, I this homo is a homo. But then a switch flipped. I also ended up getting a date from the site and in my head it went pretty well with some set backs and my date also assured me that she had a great time and that she would online dating girl stops responding wanna go out with me again. The second different you pointed out was that you complimented him.